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Doves and Serpents and Houses in Cincinnati

July 10, 2010

So, our house.  The house.  The house that we’re trying to buy.  Not, I keep reminding myself, our house.

So, the house.  The house that is sitting in Cincinnati that I’d love to live in but am not sure that I ever will get to live in.  Yes, I just may be living with my parents for the rest of my life.  I’m more and more certain of it every day.

I digress.

So, the house.  Let’s just say that the process has not been smooth.  It was a foreclosure, so we expected some complications and were mentally fortified.  And we handled it well for a while.

First our offer was rejected, and then accepted.  Then, we’ve waited patiently for almost three months as our closing date has changed constantly and finally dropped off the face of the earth.

And then there was the mold.  I can’t even talk about that.  Let’s just say that after MUCH haggling, they’re going to pay for it… since it was their negligence in leaving the sump pump off that led to the mold in the first place.

Needless to say, we’ve been patient.  And every time we were tempted to walk away, everything worked out.  God seemed to be working things out in his own time and teaching us patience.  And we finally seemed to have things under control.  Our closing date was to be this Friday, July 16th.

But then.  THEN.  Then today, we get this call:

Folks, we finally got the water turned on in the house so that the appraiser could inspect it.  But we didn’t know that the pipes had frozen while it was off… so they burst.  And they flooded the ceilings.  And now we have to replace all the piping and redrywall and paint all the ceilings.  And there’s no word yet on electrical or carpet damage.  And… we won’t even decide on a contractor for about a week.


So Andy and I are learning to be grown ups.  We are learning that being a responsible adult does not always mean just being patient and passive and waiting on the Lord.  It also means taking action.  It means that instead of just saying “Okay, let us know when you’re done, this must be God’s will”… we need to take action to follow God’s will too, even if that means walking.

And we need to write to the bank with a bristling note making our demands known, giving a specific time limit for how long they have to fix this before we walk, declaring our rights to have it inspected to ensure that it wasn’t a shoddy job, and that we can walk away whenever we choose to if we don’t like how they handle this.

Which, my awesome husband did this evening, with great confidence, brutality, and menace.  What is that saying of Jesus?  “Wise as serpents, innocent as doves”?  That’s us, baby.  Meek and sweet Leah and Andy, the pushovers of the ages, are finally learning to be adults.  To balance patience and contentedness with shrewdness.

Sigh.  So here we are.  Anybody out there with words of wisdom or similar experiences to console my poor self with?

5 Comments leave one →
  1. July 10, 2010 10:50 am

    Oh, this sounds horrible!! What a nightmare. On the other hand, though, I’m SO glad this stuff is coming to light BEFORE the house is ‘officially’ yours…can you imagine being responsible for all those repairs? NOT a pleasant surprise. We had a few of those (unpleasant surprises–like our air conditioning), but nothing quite that extensive.

  2. Anna C permalink
    July 10, 2010 11:46 am

    I’m sorry Leah, I’ll be praying it all works out for the best! (And of course it will, but I don’t need to tell you that:) I know the process for us was nerve-wracking, and it was nothing compared to this (i.e. picky documentation for the large chunk of down-payment that came from my savings, “miscommunication” caused by the seller resulting in the electricity being cut off in January…). Whatever happens, I’m sure it will be worth it!

  3. Rachel permalink
    July 12, 2010 10:32 am

    Soo sorry to hear about all this!!! We’ve been praying for you and will continue to do so!! Patience is hard in and of itself and I’m not good at it, but yes, sometimes you have to be firm and stand your ground and not let people take advantage of you!! Yes, trusting in the Lord does require action, as the Lord leads you! 🙂 Enjoy the time with your family too!

  4. Ellen permalink
    July 13, 2010 10:09 am

    “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.” (Ephesians 3:20-21)

    I had, for years, missed an important clause in this verse — according to his power that is at work within us. Yes, the same Lord who says “blessed are the meek” is the same one who says be strong and courageous and use the power I give you.

    So remember, the promise is that as you are powerful in this situation, God can do more than you ask or imagine. I’m praying for you both!

  5. Kathy Ayers permalink
    July 22, 2010 7:23 am

    I have been so blessed to have you and Andy here for more than a minute! And, it has been amazing to watch you both be so steady during this (what could be) unsettling time! God will show you both what the right path is! Hang in there, I know we are stuffed to the gills here, but we are so much enjoying having you here.

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